For someone who is not aware a lot, a submissive escort is not something normal. They usually thing of a woman who is paid to be whipped and tied up by a strange man.
Of course, if you enjoy that kind of thing—and get paid well to do it—it’s actually not far from the perfect career. But considering that more than the halves of the women who enjoy BDSM are thought to be as submissive, there are fairly few specialized subs compared with dominatrices.
Sub Fox, an Australian who now works in London, is one of the few working in the UK. I spoke to her in order to find out a little about her life.
-What made you decide that you wanted to be a proficient submissive?
– I got fired from my job, and the job market was totally awful at the time. I couldn’t find any other job and was very stressed out about the unpaid bills and rent. I went out for drinks one night with my best friend, and she, knowing my tendency towards all things BDSM, suggested looking for a work in a dungeon.
The next day I started doing research and applied to a few dungeons. I got hired at a very beautiful dungeon in South London and trained there. It was primarily dom work, with some submissive sessions rarely. I don’t have a dom bone in my body, so being a dom always felt pressing. In this job, if you don’t love what you’re doing, it’s very clear, very unfair to the client, and not the right one for the worker. So I decided to leave this job and work on my own.
-Is being a submissive your only source of earnings?
It’s definitely my only income. I get in touch with a lot of people who criticize me of my work and ask why I don’t get a common job, and I always have to apologize even though I feel I don’t have to. I’m my own boss, I make my own hours, I select my clients, and I make more in a few hours than most people make in a month. I was asked by a friend if this was what I wished-for myself doing when I was little. I think my goal, was always to stand on my own, so yes.
-And what do your sessions typically involve?
I have a lot of clients who like to force me not to cum. They turn me on, but they are not allowing me to orgasm, before they say so. If I do so before they allow it then there is some form of punishment. Forced orgasms are also a favorite part of my clients’ sessions. They’re pretty much exactly what they sound like: I’m controlled and made to orgasm continually. It sounds amazing, but becomes very intense and aching.
-How much do you make each session?
-It always depends on what the session entails. It’s normally between £600 an hour.
-What’s the strangest demand you’ve ever had from a client?
I’ve been doing this for so long that nothing seems strange. I had a man who asked me to lie in an ice bath for as long as I could take it and then lie perfectly still in quietness. I had a client who wanted me covered me with dollars of 5 and left me there naked and he finally cum via masturbation. He wanted to feel like a real king who can spend his money in any way he wants.
-Do you ever worry for your safety, since you give these men an element of control over you?
-Yes, definitely. By the very definition of their profession, submissive allow themselves to be dominated, and that comes with a lot of risk. But I always want to feel safe and secured. For example, I never meet a customer who can’t give me a phone number or address. When I have a meeting with a new client, I usually ask him to go for a coffee or a glass of wine. If I feel that something is going wrong, I simply apologize and leave. I always follow my instinct and I was never wrong till today.
-How exact do you think 50 Shades of Grey’s portrayal of a submissive was?
I didn’t read the whole book; the writing was so awful that I couldn’t finish it. It made me want to stab myself in the eye. There is also one thing that made me throw the book away. The girl uses her safe word and she is just ignored by her partner . Everybody who gets into the BDSM world must follow one rule. He must respect the safe word of his partner and stop anything he does, that may cause mental or physical pain to the other. This safe word was ignored in the book, which makes it as the worst example for me.
– Are there any useful pieces of advice or some rules a woman needs to follow in order to become an expert sub?
-First of all, don’t do this job if you don’t truly enjoy being submissive. I’ve talked to many women who thought they could change to pro sub work, and they were miserable because they didn’t like it. It’s very easy to fake your way through a role play session or some light bondage, but when taking a caning, or even a hard spanking, the pain is very real. My biggest rule though, is hearing the inner voice inside me when she keeps saying to me that it is time to go. When my instinct says that something is not like it supposed to be, then it’s time to go back home.